So I contacted an aftermarket wheels shop near me and they said the same thing and offered to get the proper bolt pattern for me if I bring the rims in. So i'm gonna do that tomorrow and then if that is the case I will most likely just buy a spacer/adapter and get them mounted that way.
either way I will update here.
Yeah it's a shame, man, a lot of people selling used stuff (or new, for that matter) will tell you anything you want to hear to make the sale. Can't count the number of times I've seen someone saying "oh yeah bro, that'll fit, for sure for sure" when it absolutely 100% will not
fit. Hopefully you can get it sorted with the wheel shop's help!